Straight Talk Tips

Relationships develop conversation by conversation; and the quality of your relationships depends on the quality of your conversations.  Many of us are unaware of our behaviour in conversations and how it can have disastrous effects on our relationships with people who are important to us such as our children, life partners and colleagues at work. Do you hog the air space? Some people always have more difficult problems, more interesting stories or more dramatic dramas than anyone else. Are you one of them? Do people around you take on a slightly glazed stare when you get going on a topic,…
Intellectually you may believe that you’re in charge of your own destiny. In practice, what does your behaviour say? For most of us our emotions exist on an on-off toggle. Often we choose to shut them down completely, afraid to express them because we’re scared of the damage we might do. Then, unable to hold onto our anger or frustration or misery any longer, we explode. Tears and tantrums follow… it’s not pretty. Just as you control your actions, you also control your thoughts and feelings. It's part of the same internal discipline. How well do you do? I would…
There’s more toxic behaviour than ever in corporate workplaces. You’ll be familiar with it. People are unreliable. They flit between meetings, leaving trails of forgotten promises and incomplete projects in their wake. The response to any feedback is defensive. Everyone’s on the edge so any feedback is taken to be criticism. We’re all distracted, trying to attend to a dozen things at once, and giving precious little intelligent attention to any of them. We exist in bubbles of our own importance, unaware of or uncaring that people find us inconsiderate and disrespectful. We blame others more often than we take…
Is there anyone out there who is not waiting for someone to make a decision: someone who is probably in back-to-back meetings and drowning in e-mail? Business is being strangled by the bottlenecks created by people who don’t delegate.  Delegating - remember the steps? Choose someone to delegate to. Know what you want and explain it clearly. Check they understand. Agree on the resources required, standards, mileposts and deadlines.  Then the scary part: get out of the way and let them get on with it – their way. You need to trust the people you delegate to. If you don’t, you’ll worry…
K.I.S.S. We all know the old acronym. Why then are so many people drowning in complexity and chaos?  The life you lead is the one you choose. Here are four tips for making choices that keep to the K.I.S.S. principle Fix your focus Decide what will make most impact on moving you in the direction you want to go. Focus on it, get it done. Then tackle the next step. If you make everything a priority, then you have no priorities. It’s now well known that multi-tasking merely produces poorer quality work that overall, takes longer. Confirm commitment Much of…