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We recently asked a group of clients to consider how their efforts to create change, both at work and in their personal lives, become derailed. Their three main reasons are as follows. The first is lack of really strong motivation from the outset. In organisations, the good business reasons for change and the consequences of not changing tend to be understood by some, often senior people, but not others. There isn’t enough work put in to create the same understanding and conviction amongst everyone else, especially the employees whose day to day behaviour is going to be most affected by…
Do your children use any of these behaviours? They whinge, whine and negotiate until they get what they want They leave toys and clothes lying around knowing that you will clear up after them They agree to rules of the household and then break them constantly They lie around watching TV while you cook and wash up Do you realise that you have taught them to behave like this? It works like this. If your child experiences a positive result from something they do, they are likely to behave that way in future. If they see no result from their…
It saddens me to see how so many adults have poor self-esteem and low self-confidence. By the time you are in your twenties, thirties and beyond, life patterns are in place that are hard to change. It would be so much easier if we had not acquired those negative perceptions of ourselves in the first place! While many factors go to make up our children’s perception of themselves, there is one element that, as a parent, you can do much to influence. You can praise your children. You can reward them when they do well. You can catch them doing…
You know what it’s like to play Supermum: the one who’s there for everyone, who remembers everything, who takes care of the details and sorts out the problems long after everyone else has collapsed in a heap. The smartest Supermums also know how to keep themselves in a good space so they can continue being Supermums. They have learned how to say ‘No’ without sound uncaring, unwilling or just plain grumpy - not good Supermum behaviours! The steps below will help you CARE for yourself. Start by being Clear on exactly what the other person wants from you. Ask for…
You’ll be familiar with portfolios of evidence as a means of tracking the performance of children at school. It’s quite likely that some of you have been co-opted into helping in their preparation for the end of year exams. If there were a parenting exam at the end of the year, how would your portfolio of evidence measure up? There are many criteria for good parenting. The six below are offered as thought starters. Do you have evidence that when you talk to your children you balance the times you share your wisdom with them with the amount you encourage…