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This is the first of the blog posts based on the top ten most read Straight Talk Tips that go to my clients each month. The tips are free and you can sign up for them here Moving targets re-title: How to set realistic objectives Conventional wisdom holds that when you want people to perform at their best you start out by making sure they know what to do. This can be in the shape of targets, goals, objectives, key performance areas and standards. The acronym SMART has been in use for many years.   Specific Measurable Agreed Realistic Time…
We say yes when we really want to say no because we fear that others will criticise us for being selfish, uncaring or unhelpful. We say yes to hold onto the illusion that we can be there for everyone, the dependable fall-back in every crisis, the perfect employee, perfect friend and perfect partner. We say yes to others when we don’t give our personal needs and dreams the respect and priority they deserve, and end up sacrificing our self-respect to gain the approval. The consequence is that we do things we don’t enjoy with people we don’t like; we put…
Learning how to say no is one of the best ways to reduce your stress level. Use it to protect your personal time and resources, and to avoid the resentment you feel when you allow yourself to be pushed into saying yes. Learn it and use it. Think how you feel when you agree to do something you don’t want to do for someone you resent, or when you give up your time to meet the demands of others instead of attending to your own priorities. Stressed! Learning how to say no is one of the best ways to reduce…
When we talk about needing space, setting limits or agreeing on what is acceptable behavior, we are referring to personal boundaries. When you have boundaries in place you don’t tolerate abuse or disrespect from others and you don’t take on the problems that belong to them. You know who you are and you treat yourself and others with respect. Clear boundaries create healthy relationships. When you are able to communicate your needs, feelings and preferences clearly you can make decisions about where you want your boundaries to be. When there is a factual or common practice basis for boundaries the…
he year has only just started and already we’re in burnout. The memory of the holidays is long gone. E-mails are streaming through in their hundreds; meetings are stacked up back to back; the school term is well under way; social activities are going non-stop and you’ve started planning for Easter! It’s no wonder your stress level is rising.   Some of the stressors in our lives are outside of our control such as bureaucratic red tape that takes up time and energy for obscure purposes,requirements from unreasonable clients, and the demand from school that your child has a hair-cut…